Intro: 

Eph. 1:17 that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, (ESV)

This is an establishing of our true identity 

Complete in Him – A Platform for Healthy Relationships 

Col. 2:10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. (NKJV)

Col. 2:10 and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority. (ESV)

What We’re Not Talking About 

1 Cor. 7:5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (NLT)

1 Th. 4:18 Therefore encourage one another with these words. (ESV)

1 Th. 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. (ESV)

Rom. 1:12 that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. (ESV)

Heb. 10:24 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, (ESV)

Examples of something you may read in a Valentines card

I love my eyes when you look into them. I love my name when you say it. I love my heart when you touch it. I love my life when you are in it.

You are the air that makes the balloon of my heart float.

Everyone has their weakness, but I have two: everything you say, and everything you do.

For the first time in my life, I don’t have to try to be happy. When I’m with you, it just happens.

THOUGHT: the platform on which we build our relationships – (platform as in our beliefs and thought patterns) 

P- Healthy relationship vs ANY relationship

Marriage and other relationships

2 principles 

Giver or Taker – Consumer or Contributor – Full or Needy

CLIP – What about Bob – I need I need  I want

What about me. 

If you really love me you have to fill my needs

Not a healthy relationship

Taking / Consuming

Everything is good unless you don’t supply my needs

If one is the taker, the other one is normally the supplier 

It can be better. 

1 Cor. 12:31b…And yet I show you a more excellent way. (NKJV)

Introduces the love chapter 1 Cor 13 

Ahava 

The Hebrew word for love, “ahava” comes from the base word “hav” which means GIVE; which makes love “giving”. 

For the first time in my life, I don’t have to try to be happy. When I’m with you, it just happens.

What can I give? (the other person)

We can’t be God, be the Saviour

We can’t give what you don’t have 

  1. Give apology for mistakes

A good apology

  1. Say “I’m sorry” clearly
  2. Identify what you are sorry for 
  3. Acknowledge how your mistake affected the other person.
  4. A request for forgiveness.

You can NEED God. You HAVE Him, but receive from Him 

Col. 2:10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. (NKJV)

Col. 2:10 and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority. (ESV)

John 1:16 NKJV   of His fulness have we all received

How to be full of God

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